During your pregnancy, I am sure that you will have heard some birth stories that have left you feeling frightened of your own baby’s upcoming birth and scared about what could go wrong. You may think: “If it happened to them, it could happen to me” or it might be that your last birth experience was traumatic and you fear it may be the same this time.
The important thing to remember is that ALL women, pregnancies, bodies, babies, labours and births are completely different! There are so many variables that it is not possible for two birth experiences to be the same!
Another woman’s experience of birth will NOT be the same as yours!
If this is your second baby, it is possible there will be some similarities between your two labours, BUT it is also possible that they will be completely different – there is no way of knowing! The only thing you CAN know for sure is how prepared you feel both physically and emotionally. The more prepared you feel, the more you will be able to cope with whichever path your birth experience takes.
We know that birth doesn’t always happen the way we want it to and sometimes nature throws us an unexpected curve ball which we have to deal with during labour – which is when we are at our most vulnerable. By preparing as much as you can for labour and birth in advance by becoming knowledgeable about birth and how your body works, and learning ways to stay relaxed, calm and focused throughout, this will help you feel empowered to deal with any curve ball thrown your way!
To help you feel more confident in your body’s ability to birth, it is more effective to focus on what can go WELL during labour. Working on your mindset for birth is the key to building your confidence.
Of course our mindset is influenced by what we read, watch and hear about birth. So often, the media portrays birth as a traumatic negative experience. By continuously subjecting ourselves to this negativity we are sending negative messages to our subconscious mind which affects our confidence in our body’s ability to birth. This in turn has a direct impact on how we cope during labour both physically and emotionally.
A way to counteract this negativity is to avoid watching, reading or listening to negative messages about birth. By focusing on only positive messages about birth, watching empowering birth videos and reading inspirational birth stories this will leave you feeling excited and thinking YES I CAN DO THIS!!!
Here you will find a collection of empowered birth stories to read and feel inspired by!
If you have an empowered birth story of your own that you would like to share with our community, we would love to read it!