During your pregnancy, I am sure that you will have heard some birth stories that have left you feeling frightened of your own baby’s upcoming birth and scared about what could go wrong. You may think: “If it happened to them, it could happen to me” or it might be that your last birth experience was traumatic and you fear it may be the same this time.
The important thing to remember is that ALL women, pregnancies, bodies, babies, labours and births are completely different! There are so many variables that it is not possible for two birth experiences to be the same!
Another woman’s experience of birth will NOT be the same as yours!
If this is your second baby, it is possible there will be some similarities between your two labours, but it is also possible that they will be completely different – there is no way of knowing! The only thing you can know for sure is how prepared you feel mentally, emotionally, physically and practically. The more prepared you feel, the more empowered and equipped you will feel to manage any path that your birth experience takes.
We know that birth doesn’t always happen the way we want it to and sometimes nature throws us an unexpected curve ball which we have to deal with during labour – which is when we are at our most vulnerable. By preparing as much as you can for labour and birth in advance by becoming knowledgeable about birth and how your body works, and learning ways to stay relaxed, calm and focused throughout, this will help you feel empowered to deal with any curve ball thrown your way!
To help you feel more confident in your body’s ability to birth, it can be useful to focus on what can go WELL during labour. Exploring your beliefs about birth and focusing on preparing yourself on every level is the key to feeling confident and empowered.
Of course our beliefs are influenced by what we read, watch and hear about birth. The media often portrays birth as a traumatic experience. By continuously subjecting ourselves to traumatic images and stories about birth we end up conditioning ourselves to believe that “this is what birth is like for all women” and this belief affects our confidence in our body’s ability to birth. This, in turn, can have a direct impact on how we cope during labour mentally, emotionally and physically because the mind-body connection is powerful. One way to counteract the negativity we are subjected to frequently is to avoid watching, reading or listening to disempowering messages about birth. Focusing instead on empowering birth videos and reading empowered birth stories will help you to believe that this is what birth can be like for all women and it will leave you feeling excited and thinking YES I CAN DO THIS!!!
So here you will find a collection of empowered birth stories to read and feel inspired by!
If you have an empowered birth story of your own that you would like to share with our community, we would love to add it to our collection!