November 2019

The Mother Side / 2019 / November

I remember when I was pregnant for the first time, Feeling anxious, it was early days, my clothes were feeling tight, If you looked closely you could notice my bump, But I had been doing well covering it up, So I thought no one at work had noticed, But then one day when I was in the office, A busybody colleague walked up, curious,   Are you ‘carrying?’ He asked as he pointed at my bump, I felt a wave of anger wash over me, in my throat I felt a lump, I wanted to tell him that it was none of his fucking business, And that I wasn’t ready...

Because after supporting new mothers and parents antenatally and postnatally in my capacity as both an antenatal teacher and a psychotherapist for the last 8 years, and from my research into the impact of a woman’s birth experience on her postnatal mental health, I started to become aware of several things. I noticed a theme of disempowerment in the birth stories of women who had experienced a traumatic birth. The impact of a traumatic birth on maternal mental health, and the wider impact on families and society is well documented....