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Are you putting your happiness on hold?

Do you spend most of your time in the present moment?

Or are you mostly living in the past or worrying about the future?

Do you feel trapped in your current situation?

Are you waiting for things to be different before you can enjoy your life?

Perhaps you find yourself thinking:

Life will be better when….

…we have more money

…we have paid off the mortgage

…I have a better job

…I can retire

…The children are older

…We are away on holiday

…The house is decorated

…We have no debt

…It’s the weekend

…I am out of this situation I am in…. etc etc

But what if life could be better now?

What if you could make the most of every single second of every single day of your life? The good bits, the darker bits and the bits in between?

What if you did the things that bought you joy every day? 

Because we only have the now!

The past is gone.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

So all we have is the present.

Our children know this – they live mostly in the now. But as we grow into adults we tend to lose this ability. We focus on achieving goals, furthering our career, being a success, making more money….

We can get so focused on the future that we end up spending most of our time thinking about it. But none of these things we are focusing on are real. Because they haven’t happened yet. The future isn’t promised. There are no guarantees and we do not know what is going to happen.

So we don’t have to wait to enjoy life! We can enjoy it right now!

We don’t have to put our happiness on hold until we have more money, until we can go on holiday, until we retire etc

However we want to feel from having achieved all of these things, we can feel RIGHT NOW without achieving them… 

THIS is true freedom. THIS is true happiness that comes from within – not from external sources.

So if you have been putting your happiness on hold or if you are feeling as though you are waiting to enjoy life – don’t wait any longer!

Do the things you love to do every single day. Make your daily happiness a priority. Follow your dreams. Live in the now. 



This beautiful poem sums all of this up perfectly:

“I am no longer waiting for a special occasion; I burn the best candles on ordinary days.

I am no longer waiting for the house to be clean; I fill it with people who understand that even dust is Sacred.

I am no longer waiting for everyone to understand me; It’s just not their task.

I am no longer waiting for the perfect children; my children have their own names that burn as brightly as any star.

I am no longer waiting for the other shoe to drop; It already did, and I survived.

I am no longer waiting for the time to be right; the time is always now.

I am no longer waiting for the mate who will complete me; I am grateful to be so warmly, tenderly held.

I am no longer waiting for a quiet moment; my heart can be stilled whenever it is called.

I am no longer waiting for the world to be at peace; I unclench my grasp and breathe peace in and out.

I am no longer waiting to do something great; being awake to carry my grain of sand is enough.

I am no longer waiting to be recognized; I know that I dance in a holy circle.

I am no longer waiting for Forgiveness. I believe, I Believe.”

– Mary Anne Perrone


Also check out this video for some more inspiration!


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